Friday, January 15, 2010

KEYS TO YOUR CHILD'S GROWTH

KEYS TO YOUR CHILD’S GROWTH

 

 

Parents’ reactions to their child’s actions can either make their kid feel discouraged, or encouraged. There are no “bad” or “good” kids; only “discouraged” or “encouraged” children whose behavior reflects their parent’s reactions.

 

 

The 4 C’s of encouragement:

 

 

Connect

 

Kids receive unconditional love

 

Kids get a lot of loving eye contact

 

Kids get a lot of affectionate hugs and touches

 

Parents play and talk with their kids

 

Child’s feelings are listened to and validated

 

Parents have fun with their kid

 

 

Feel Capable

 

Kids learn skills

 

Kids are taught social skills and how to act

 

Mistakes are used as opportunities to learn

 

Kids are able to do a lot of things for themselves

 

Parents focus on the positive aspects of their child’s efforts

 

Parents show confidence in their child’s abilities

 

 

Count

 

Child’s ideas and opinions are respected and accepted

 

Parents show interests in their child’s interests and thoughts

 

Children are recognized as individuals of equal value

 

Kids are a part of family meeting, giving kids a equal voice

 

 

Contribute

 

Kids are given tasks, like household chores

 

Child’s help is accepted and appreciated

 

Child’s efforts are appreciated

 

Child is given responsibilities

 

 

Encouraging your child

 

Build on your child’s strengths

 

Show confidence in your child’s abilities

 

Appreciate your child’s abilities

 

Encourage your child’s independence

 

See your child’s performance through their eyes

 

Avoid putting child into “boxes” and encourage your child to do the things they are not so good at.

 

When parents encourage their child’s abilities, parents create limitless possibilities for their kids. Encouraged children will excel so much more in life than those kids who are put into “boxes” of what they are good at. Have confidence in your child and watch them achieve greatness!

 

 

 

 

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